When it comes to your experience at work, the relationship you have with your boss is a significant predictor. You may have the job that you’ve always dreamt about and you simply love what you are doing, but if your boss doesn’t seem to like you, you’ll always have a big problem.
If you have good relationship with your boss, it is likely that you’ll get interesting assignments, meaningful feedback, and recognition for your contributions. Bad relationships mean, well, just the opposite. Of course, having a distant, prickly relationship with your boss means that your work or career will suffer. You will always feel unhappy everyday so you’ll slowly lose your confidence, motivation and resilience to the point where you feel like the only alternative you’ve left is to resign and look for another job.
Quitting your job because your boss does not like you is not the last resort. As an alternative to this drastic measure, you need to examine the situation, know the reasons why your boss hates you and develop a plan to bridge the relationship gap.
First, you can consider the source of your boss’ feelings. Try to ignore the emotional sting of feeling hated and instead focus on understanding what’s going on. Do not immediately jump into conclusion that your boss really hates you that much. Instead, explore the possibility that you’re falsely attributing what is just harried, stressed-out behaviour as disdain for you personally. You may confide in a trusted workmate or two to see if they validate your concerns, or if they might reassure you that everything is fine.
Once you have found evidence that there something awkward with your relation, try to determine the root cause. Observe your boss’ choice of words and watch his body language. If you can’t find anything wrong with him, entertain the possibility that the problem might be you and not your boss. Evaluate your performance and determine your flaws.